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How true is this for you in present or past relationships?

Why would you want to be the one to care less? So that you have to power? or so that things affect you less? If you care less about things, then you'll be less disappointed when things go awry <--- Is that the theory?

Doesn't "caring less" take away from your relationship? Why would you want to temper the amount of caring or affection that your pour into someone? Self preservation?

Do any of you have a 'safe period' after which to decide it's fine to let go and go all in? Or is this something that exists throughout the entire relationship?

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I would never do that and would never want to be with someone that doesnt go all in due to fear or wanting the upper hand somehow. That relationship would be doomed. I would accept it during the beginning though but i dont do that myself.
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I don't see how 'caring less' is related to not 'going all the way in'.

In all areas of relationships there is a party who is dominant in a specific area... Different parties, different strengths and weaknesses.

This applies to all things... from decision-making skills straight on down the line to who's the better cook.

It's presumptious to assume that someone 'cares less' comparatively (because this IS a comparison we're making), isn't 'all the way in'.
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I think everyone has experience both sides of that statement. Im sure someone has liked you more then you have liked them. And pretty much the person that is not into the other person as much is the one that determines where the relationship is going.

Then on the other hand if you are the one that is More into the relationship then the other person you sort of wait around for them to decide if they want to take it further. Alot in fear you will loose them if you push to much

So in theory the one who cares less holds the power.
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Relationships are such a cat and mouse game. Act like a tough guy and closed off or aloof they'll be stuck to your hip. Be honest and genuine even vulnerable at times and it's considered being weak or not manly. I myself can't pre program myself to be a certain way to achieve any high ground in a relationship. If I thought I had to do that the relationship would be not a relationship it would be an agenda driven project or a hustle.
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^^ Agreed.

Sometimes I find myself trying to "not care" but it's not how I'm programmed. Trying to be someone you're not will work out too well.
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I still think its funny how the original quote got changed from "whoever cares less; holds the power" to "He Who Cares Less..." lol
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Relationships are such a cat and mouse game. Act like a tough guy and closed off or aloof they'll be stuck to your hip. Be honest and genuine even vulnerable at times and it's considered being weak or not manly. I myself can't pre program myself to be a certain way to achieve any high ground in a relationship. If I thought I had to do that the relationship would be not a relationship it would be an agenda driven project or a hustle.

Very well written mate. I think exactly like that as well, i would never stay in a relationship that requires a behavior "strategy" to maintain. I simply follow the golden rule that in general treat others the way i want to be treated and i treat My gf the way i want her to treat me as her bf.
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Its the truth unfortunately.

Especially when it comes to hurting other people.

When it comes to making something work and to transcend to teh next level, who cares most has the most power.
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